So today’s question is definitely outside of our normal fashion/beauty/what do I buy my boss for Christmas realm. But, we figured, given the state of our economy/businesses closing/thinking we just saw a quartet of men on horses, we thought we’d address. Just please remember, we are not official job coaches, we are not Suze Orman. We do not have a proper savings account and we wear dirty jeans to work. That is, take this as you wish.
Dear Lil Bunny,
I hate my job. Not like sometimes, or I have bad days. I truly, deeply detest and hate my job. It pays the bills and it’s not a harmful work environment – those are the good things. I don’t like what I do, I don’t like the company I work for, I have no friends at work, the commute is awful, and I feel like a faceless, worthless peon in a corporate monster. I’m not learning things, I’m underpaid for what I do – my vice president has come out and told me that – and I do not have a promotion in sight. I cry on my way to work. I know this isn’t your normal kind of question, but, what’s a girl to do?
Please help.
Love,
Sarah
This is such a bummer for us to hear, but instead of being all sad sack about it, we are going to suggest action! Yes, you can dwell on how unhappy you are OR you can assess the situation and figure out what needs to happen. While we are completely not financially brilliant, we read and watch a lot of Suze Orman. Her first question would be, do you have 8 months of emergency money saved. If not, GET ON IT. No excuses. Start saving every penny you can. Stop believing that buying things will make you happy – they won’t, you just end up with neat stuff (trust us on that one). Make a budget (you can find templates all over the internet) and stick with it. Every extra penny goes in the bank. This is your escape route. We know of a close friend who saved enough to buy a car, in cash (and we’re talking Honda or VW, not Kia), by not spending money while she was at work. She brought her lunch every day. When she was finally able to quit her soul sucking job, she had enough cash to survive for a while before she found something.
Next! Start looking for jobs. Finding a job now is like trying to get into Harvard or something – it’s entirely POSSIBLE. It’s just going to be hard. Tell yourself over and over that this is a tough market. Make your resume the best resume it can be. If you think it needs polish, hire someone to polish it. We cannot believe some of the resumes that have come across our desk. Find a proper interview outfit (we got a nice Calvin Klein suit from a discount store for under $200), proper interview shoes, and bag. Tuck them away in the closet so they don’t get wrinkled. Now, the hard part. Schedule time every other night to look for jobs via the internet. It can get frustrating. Disappointing. Discouraging. Do not take it personally. Just keep going. We once interviewed at the same company FIVE TIMES in one year – sometimes with people we used to work for – and had no luck. It’s ok. Keep trying. Reach out to friends, family, old coworkers. Make a LinkedIn profile. Post Facebook statuses about how you are looking for a new opportunity. Just get yourself out there.
After you’ve done that? Well. The hard part. You just wait. Sit tight. And work. While there are days we’d love to quit our job in a b.o.g (blaze of glory, of course), we know better. We know that our smile will not pay our mortgage, or our car payment, or our eBay bill. Basically, suck it up and get through the work day. Do your best, so you have a good reference when you leave. Remind yourself that you are NOT what you do – what you do is how you pay bills. It does not have to correlate to who you are as a person. It does not define you. Clock in, work, eat, work, clock out. Rinse and repeat until something new comes along. It could be days, it could be a year. Make time in the evening to do things that make you happy; see friends, family, pet dogs, eat pizza. Squirrel away every penny you can. Once you have your Suze Orman fund, you’ll be in better shape to quietly, happily walk away from your unhappy job.
But until then, buckle down, take the suck into your own hands, and do what we do best; make it awesome.
-LB