Sadly, our stylist is like the rest of the world and on vacation. So, we will step in for our stylist and try to help our dear reader who is having a struggle. She is about to see her cheating wanker of an ex-boyfriend at a party (her words, not ours. We would never appropriate British slang because we are from New Jersey and it just sounds odd) for the first time in a year, proving to cause a wardrobe dilemma.
She wonders:
"Do I show up in a laid-back outfit that evokes the vibe ‘I don’t give a fuck about what anyone thinks, especially you, you cheating wanker’, or do I wear something a bit more flattering that reminds him of what a mistake he’s made?’"
We have been in this situation, and we have tried both roads. One road ended up being dark and itchy and uncomfortable – making us twitch for the entire evening. We would suggest a gentle compromise. Wear something you are comfortable in, that you feel you look great in. If you are anything like us, this would make you happier than something new that you are not used to and damn if you didn’t notice the pokey tag in the back of the neckline.
Regardless of the kind of party, we would inevitably end up in skinny jeans (we are hypocrites, we know), a pair of boots or Havianas, a clean/snug/not old black t-shirt and silver hoop earrings. This, in fact, is what we wear whenever we want to ‘knock ‘em dead’ (whoever they may be), and we always feel good about it. If we are feeling especially saucy, we will wear red lipstick. But then we smear it and. Well. That’s for another time. Either way, the best revenge is feeling awesome about yourself – which our reader certainly should – and that will come through if you are wearing a sack or a spandex dress.
Does anyone else have words of wisdom here?
Above: Gap Favorite Tee, $14.50
-Lil’ Bunny
I agree with Lil’ Bunny–whenever I want to look amazing, I always turn back to one of my tried and true outfits (for me, always a dress) with one addition: I like to have one new thing. It could be simple as new lipstick, or as special as an incredible pair of shoes. But the combination of what I know looks good, and what is new, makes me invincible. I mean, I guess.
Emily of EmilyStyle did a great post on a similar situation not to long ago: http://emilystyle.blogspot.com/2007/06/what-to-wear-relationship-fallout.html
ugh, i think that emily style post is gross. it’s kind of cheesy and expected.
who has ever felt better – or looked hotter to a dude – when wearing bangles? seriously?
Dress for the present (and the future), Reader, not for the past. I know it’s an uncomfortable situation, but unless you want him back, it doesn’t matter what he thinks. Just go and have a good time.